Freedom And Prejudice: 10 Harmful Things Wise Parents Still Let Their Children Do

We can easily come across the adult rules set out to ban children. Are those stereotypes true? In order to raise an adult child, parents must always try to find the balance between allowing their children to develop freely with the rules of life.

Parents are not always right and imposing an adult's point of view on their children, asking them to follow their rules can sometimes be counterproductive, causing stress in life. Bright Side has gathered expert knowledge and knowledgeable parent experiences about things we shouldn't ban our children.

1. Prohibit children to tear, dirty clothes 

Unfortunately for parents in this situation, the best way for children to learn about the outside world is to run and explore their surroundings. Of course, at these times, kids will forget how much their clothes cost, as well as the brand on the t-shirt labels they made when they rolled on the grass.

If you're angry at having to throw away expensive clothes that your kids can't wear anymore, it's probably better to divide your child's wardrobe into one for outing and one for important events.

2. Prohibit snacking children

To be honest: almost every child loves junk food - all salty snacks, greasy donuts and sweets will leave a sticky mark on their hands, then they will go all over the house and touch everything around. When parents forbid children to eat these foods, it becomes a taboo in their minds and they will sneakily eat as soon as the opportunity arises.

Therefore, experts recommend that parents sometimes buy snacks for their children to understand that they can have a packet of potato chips at home without having to hurry and eat the whole bag. Moreover, children will not think of hiding a bag of candy to secretly eat.

3. Prohibit children from spending money on useless things

According to a survey, children today often spend personal money to hang out with friends, buy or download apps, buy toys, clothes or shoes, as well as buy food or pay for shipping. . Many parents think it is a waste to spend money on useless things, so they often try to limit children from buying unnecessary things by banning and advising.

 However, in practice parents should not do this for the following reason:

• ·         First of all, once you give your child money, it becomes their property. And it is up to them to decide what to spend this money on. This is especially important in families where young children are paid for household chores.

• ·         Second, this spending can be helpful for a child when they spend money on nonsense and then regret it. This way they will learn to control their spending and distinguish between immediate preferences and really important needs and wants.

4. Children are prohibited from rest and play

Psychologists are really afraid that children today have become much more worried, tired and depressed than previous generations. Part of this is in fact many children have to participate in achievement 'races'. Besides, the school curriculum is increasingly difficult, the volume of homework is much, the pressure from teachers, parents, puts children under great pressure, causing psychological instability.

That is why a modern child needs nothing to do. If your child has free time, give him / her a little space, do not push, impose children on the principles set by adults. 

That is why a child today truly aspires to do nothing. If your child's schedule is empty, don't rush to fill it with new tasks. Sometimes having nothing to do, being a little lazy is also a happy thing for children.

5. Children are prohibited from attending school

Sometimes we can even create free time for children, especially when we realize they are depressed or stressed. Good academic achievement is not important, it is important that students are mentally and mentally healthy while having too much schoolwork.

If you find your child needs a break, give him a chance to slow down and listen to himself: What do you want? What do you like to do? What are you dreaming about? Because sometimes it is even difficult for parents to have time and alertness to find answers to such simple questions in the whirlpool of life.

6. Children are prohibited from arguing with adults

This kind of ban can become dangerous for young children. Because it is important for them to know that not all adults are good and not all of their requirements must be fulfilled immediately.

For older children, it will be ethical. The fact is that wisdom and fairness do not always come from the elders. Sometimes an older person may be mistaken or behave in an impolite manner. In these situations, it is important to teach children how to defend their own ideas and know how to limit themselves. Adults need to teach them to do so without arguing, teasing, or insulting (of course, it would be better if they could do it themselves).

If you think you have lost control of your children because they have started arguing you too often, just remember that debate is a fight that starts on both sides, not just from one person. And then show your child an example of a more aggressive approach by turning debate into a compromise negotiation.

7. Children are prohibited from choosing their own clothes

Many parents have experienced so much anger that their eyes "twitched" when shopping with their children. And it's not just because of the price or the endless choices and controversy, but also the fact that they disagree with what their children like. Psychologists have given advice that parents need to stay calm. After all, you are not the one who will wear those acidic jeans or hoodie. 

It is better to let your child choose for the following two reasons:

• ·         In this way, a child develops his own personality. Children will work based on their individuality and find their place in society.
• ·         The second reason is more realistic - your children will wear those clothes instead of storing them deep in the closet without ever touching them. In addition, children will wear them without arguing every morning with grimaces.

8. Children are not allowed to disobey

Many parents are familiar with the saying "children do not listen". First of all, this seems to be of no use but to make parents with constant headaches. But try to imagine the opposite situation. You have a child who obeys himself and does everything he is asked to do. 

This child will develop into a mature adult without the opportunity to protect his or her own interests. And trust us, the bad people around will rejoice in taking advantage of this child's character.

Of course, raising children who are disobedient is a difficult task, but this will help them develop into confident, ready-to-act adults, instead of being bound by prejudices and only daring. thinking "I can't do that".

9. Children do naive things

Psychologists say children are tending to grow up too quickly. This is actually not surprising, when children are in a world where they always hear things like "you are no longer a child", "what you are doing is not too childish huh ? ” or "when will you grow up?" from his parents.

Children will not be able to naturally develop mentally because someone's designations are as easy as clicks - then they can pretend to be adults, but they are not prepared yet. for the difficulties that adulthood will face.

If your children still have a childish personality and their childhood interests, there's no reason to force them to give up. Let your children develop at their own pace.

10. Prohibit children from playing games

Some games come from the basic concept of education and learning, where children need to solve math exercises to get to the next level. 

“Some older children want to play baseball all day, but I want to play video games. It's sad because my parents always thought I destroyed my brain because of my love of video games. So I was only allowed to play games for an hour before dinner. But it just seems to make me want to play more, ”which is why Chris Bergman, the chief executive of a major software company, creates game applications. 

He also confessed that he did not prevent the children from playing games on computers and phones and believed that they maintained a calm attitude while playing.

Studies have found that video games can be more useful for children's brain development than watching TV. All because the game teaches their brains to react and read information faster. This skill will be useful for children as they grow up and live in an advanced technology environment that is even more developed than it is now.